Posts Tagged ‘attitudes’

Just found out that some people are very criticizing regarding getting anesthetic for certain procedures. That was on a forum about dental procedures as i googled for how long my jaw will be stiff after local anesthesia. I always take it for every procedure (dental or another). It’s 21st century and life is too short for suffering. Nobody is going to build you a statue anyways. There are though people who are simply terrified of getting a shot in the gum and they would rather suffer than being stung. I do understand them because it is really uncomfortable to have a shot in your gums but i prefer being numbed throughout the entire procedure than feel pain, drilling and scratching.

As some of you might have guessed i did have very unpleasant encounters with dentists especially when i was a kid and the procedures were not so advanced as they are now. At my first dentist appointment, he pulled out two teeth without any anesthetic and i was around 5 or 6. You imagine that after that, i wasn’t a dentist-friend anymore. And as a result i lost one of my permanent teeth. Times changed, procedures changed and after i had my first dental procedure under anesthesia, i never looked back. Even the so-dreaded, wisdom tooth removal was piece of cake because half of my face was numb and it went really fast.

If you ask me if the anesthetic shot hurts, i would say no. It is uncomfortable but nothing i couldn’t stand. Maybe it’s because i’m used to have extremely painful periods due to endometriosis and this is nothing compared to some stinging needle. There was one time when the shot hurt me so bad i screamed but my tooth was infected and it was hurting anyways. Otherwise, the anesthetic starts being active within the first 5 minutes and it lasts for about 5 hours. It’s really funny to talk and very weird to drink, you feel like drinking with half of your mouth.

The anesthetic is weirdly enough optional and you have to pay separately for it but as some people don’t understand my easiness in taking in, i won’t understand either their refusal in taking it. The only unpleasant thing is maybe afterwards as my jaw is sore for the first day and stiff for about 3-4 days but i’ll take that over pain, drilling and scraping.

P.S. Not afraid of needles and stand the sight of blood extremely well.


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In the shade of the recent unfortunate events and finding this article online, i decided to write my piece of mind about this matter. Few days ago, i opened my facebook at the sad news that the singer from Linkin Park has died. I did listen a lot to this band while in high school. I never knew though that Chester was suffering from depression. I was sad to hear that but i got sadder and even angrier at the way people talked about depression and suicide. People dismissing depression as just a phase, not a real illness and one can just get over it.

I never suffered from severe depression so i can’t even talk about it but i would never ever dismiss it. Depression is a very serious illness with severe consequences and it destroys lives. I’ve met people suffering from it and what it struck me was actually my incapacity to help them. Because depression is a serious disease and needs specialized medical attention. As a friend you can be supportive but never dismissing. That is one of the worst things you can do, be dismissive. Although to be honest, sometimes i wish i could do more for them than just tell them to be strong.

But, now to be honest, i wasn’t shocked. I was angry, i was sad but not shocked. Because i have gone through the same thing, that means people dismissing and judging me for my illness. And my illness is physical not mental. So, if i was judged because of a chronic physical illness, i can’t even imagine how much shit people with mental illnesses get.

I’m suspected of a chronic auto-immune disease that has no treatment for the moment although I’ve might have had it (according to specialists) since i was a teenager. Because it is understudied, the delay in diagnosis could take up to 20 years and in my case i have not yet a clear diagnosis because i need surgery which for the moment i’m foolishly postponing it because i’m shit scared of it. The only treatment for now is hormonal and surgical which doesn’t sound glamorous at all. Unfortunately, i had to put up with lots of condescending attitudes from people starting from the “it can’t be that bad”, “you are exaggerating”, “it’s just a fuss”, “it can’t be that serious” to people who downright attacked my medication saying that it’s not natural, i’m destroying myself, i should try voodoo medicine and not trust doctors and then explaining to me the side effects as if i am some stupid kid who can’t read the labels or understand them. Funny thing is i don’t even know most these people personally.

Here are some guidelines for these people who like to play the know it all specialists:

  • If you are not sick or never been sick, you have no idea what i’m going through. So before opening your mouth to say stupid things, think. I never open my mouth to give advice to a person with severe depression because i have no idea what they are going through.
  • Are you a doctor? No? Stop giving medical advice. Of course, suggestions are always welcome but don’t talk like a know it all.
  • STOP JUDGING MY MEDICATION! I have been to a doctor for that and i’m sure that after years of studying, they know what they are doing. Much better than you ever will. In my case, the pills i am taking are the only ones who can make me function and keep my illness under control (for the moment). When you find a cure or a better treatment for it, come and announce me. Until then shut up. I know very well what i am taking, i know it has risks and side effects, i know what those are. I’m an adult, not a two year old toddler. Do you think i enjoy taking some pills which have risks of cardiovascular disease, blood clots and other charming side effects? No! We have no choice for the moment.
  • Take off your tin foil hat and stop blaming some conspiracy stuff and big pharma. Yes, i know companies are greedy but without some of the medicines we have now, some of us would be dead. There is no secret maybe but i usually hear this rhetoric from anti-vaxers who see everything a conspiracy out there to get them.
  • Voodoo medicine aka homeopathic. Tried that honey, it didn’t work. I have nothing against it but following the logic of big pharma what makes you think there aren’t the same kind of people who would like to make a profit selling sugar water to desperate people? I do take some supplements along with my medicine but relying only on supplements would be very foolish. I do have some friends though who gave me very good hints (tested ones) from people with same symptoms as i. I appreciate that a lot and of course i’m going to try them. But under no circumstances they dismissed conventional medicine.
  • There is no magic way out, there is no magic pill to make us healthy. Instead of being judgmental, don’t say anything at all if you have nothing supportive to say. I will give you a hint though, what i usually tell my friends who are struggling with an illness. I wish them all the best, to stay strong and if there is anything they need just ask. That’s it. It’s very easy not to be an asshole. 🙂



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